tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post7755718765738902221..comments2024-03-16T06:57:34.250-04:00Comments on Bong Mom's CookBook: My Methi Dal -- simple rantsBong Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15407918137263251235noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-68292126787956851632013-04-08T23:18:07.687-04:002013-04-08T23:18:07.687-04:00Dear Sandeepa
I remember reading this great posti...Dear Sandeepa <br />I remember reading this great posting many times and read once again today ...very nice and the disclaimer is well placed .<br />But yet to make the dal, with a flavor of cumin,, garlic and methi green tempering. Whenever i read this, the kitchen was not handy <br />have a nice week <br />Ushnishda Ushnish Ghoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09727310069092219284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-8569838121456903722013-03-07T15:00:55.085-05:002013-03-07T15:00:55.085-05:00I was looking for a recipe of dal and I find this ...I was looking for a recipe of dal and I find this delightful post that echoes the thoughts in my mind and I guess those of half the female population. It seems like serendipity that I found this post today when I was feeling a little irritated thinking about how 'women's day' is celebrated now-a-days. Thanks. I love your recipes and posts. This post put a smile on my face. A Pretty Lazy Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16218483802475352774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-22810309748057050282011-12-14T08:54:58.756-05:002011-12-14T08:54:58.756-05:00I just loved your opening lines...and not only on ...I just loved your opening lines...and not only on this post!!! It found resonance with what was on my mind today!!! The whole lucky you .... he helps out (I am like ...dodo... aint that how it is supposed to be?)Great blog!!mytwobitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06730949946930176406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-47041130864820290832011-04-21T09:08:01.026-04:002011-04-21T09:08:01.026-04:00ohhhhh I love your post just as much as i love the...ohhhhh I love your post just as much as i love the recipe ...Celestial Dreamzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11665499902779022498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-2233957032168862142011-04-21T04:01:03.179-04:002011-04-21T04:01:03.179-04:00Yeah I gree S. We women are mostly at the receivin...Yeah I gree S. We women are mostly at the receiving end, but somewhere somehow we too are responsible for handing over the certificate of 'an elevated being' to our hubbys and thattoo on a platter. My hubby is staying at a different city where he works. Of course he has to do the housework there (even though there is a maid) and cooking too. He never fails to remind me how magnanimous he is by taking care of eveything 'inspite' of working out. Mind you he's living alone there and i'm living here with my 10 yr old son. I too work and my hours are hectic. Ihave a house too and the additional duty of doing all that needs to be done for a 10 yr old. But not a word of praise for me. That's normal for a woman and she must do---he seems to think. But, and here there is a big BUT. When this hubby comes home on leave, surprisingly I find myself going aaah and ooooh over how he toils over there and he needs to relax and go overborad with feeding him all his fav dishes, as if he has come home after winnin g the world war II. Why do I do that? It's MY fault entirely.KUHU GANGULInoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-26754647436815144712011-04-19T10:03:56.318-04:002011-04-19T10:03:56.318-04:00Very well said...
In my house its the MIL who bris...Very well said...<br />In my house its the MIL who bristles if her son even picks up a spoon... very 18th century... And spoils him silly so when MIL is around hubby doesnt lift a finger.Cooking Foodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15612064730387446326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-44030237575892467982011-04-18T10:10:26.492-04:002011-04-18T10:10:26.492-04:00You hit the nail on the head. I am so sick of all ...You hit the nail on the head. I am so sick of all the "you are so lucky" comments that I want to say "but he is lucky too dammit". Some of the friends even comment as to what is left for the wife to do if the husband does or knows how to do everything?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054468651624356660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-1242284396537258932011-04-15T14:01:18.881-04:002011-04-15T14:01:18.881-04:00Shilpa
What a frustrated person, but it is really...Shilpa<br /><br />What a frustrated person, but it is really hard to judge from the outside on the dynamics in a couple's life. Many times the women themselves like to play the role of a martyr.I hope your female friend is ok with the situation.<br />Maybe you should tell the guy, "How lucky he is after all"<br /><br />Lavanya<br /><br />Good Point. <br /><br />SS<br /><br />yeah that happens too but the wife has to be an exemplary earner. I am sure Indra Nooyi's husband hears that a lot :DBongMomhttp://www.bongcookbook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-56175053044100687382011-04-15T00:22:05.581-04:002011-04-15T00:22:05.581-04:00Maybe guys tell husbands.. "Your wife works.....Maybe guys tell husbands.. "Your wife works.. so you are quitting this crappy job! You are so lucky!"SS blogs herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14277887171436832914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-28177645551075181852011-04-14T19:42:52.218-04:002011-04-14T19:42:52.218-04:00I completely completely relate to this and I think...I completely completely relate to this and I think I've used your exact same arguments ..lol..<br />My husband and I have always sort of divided the work and it is usually a non-issue between us. However, it really annoys me when (in the eyes of other people like friends/relatives) anything I do is my duty and something I am supposed to do, but everything he does becomes a sort of virtue). <br /><br />ANd it is not like people always say anything but I can feel them thinking it..So I wonder if this is just in my head and I even let myself feel guilty about not doing more which makes me feel like ranting even more because ofcourse I am doing enough...lol (Ok- I am starting to sound crazy..:))<br /><br />[I think it is because we compare ourselves with the average within our own gender and Indian husbands have a history of low averages so anything above that average seems super great. Which is very rant inducing!]<br /><br />btw - i think I will make your methi dal today..Lavanyahttp://purplepaperplanes.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-40429414786147831052011-04-14T11:07:06.633-04:002011-04-14T11:07:06.633-04:00Thats such an awesome post S. Recently we were at ...Thats such an awesome post S. Recently we were at a friend's place in CA, who kept barking(yeah, I was so mad at him) orders at his wife. He would ask his wife, who would be working in kitchen, to come and hand over the remote!!. I asked him why he does that. I was speechless at his response. He said "I earn, so she can atleast do all these seva for me". Btw..his wife is doing some medical course, she goes to college. She does not get any vacations(she has to go to school even on weekends and other holidays). Her timings are more hectic than his.Shilpahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11408998869039514968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-21287717221657803022011-04-14T09:59:31.563-04:002011-04-14T09:59:31.563-04:00Seema
It is not about the hubby though. It is abo...Seema<br /><br />It is not about the hubby though. It is about our attitude towards men helping at home.<br /><br />Sra<br /><br />I tell you, no one will care. I often say, the kids are not mine alone so if D is doing diapers or feeding them breakfast, I appreciate his help but I also expect as much.People still continue saying, "Oh he does so much". What is that supposed to mean?<br /><br /><br />DR<br /><br />Ar bolo na :-DBongMomhttp://www.bongcookbook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-39525750225203387962011-04-14T05:15:10.576-04:002011-04-14T05:15:10.576-04:00Well said dear!!!
;-)
DRWell said dear!!!<br />;-)<br />DRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-30536651370748580372011-04-14T01:27:29.020-04:002011-04-14T01:27:29.020-04:00I was expecting the dal to be made by D!
Men can...I was expecting the dal to be made by D! <br /><br />Men can cook and clean but be nasty/unhelpful in other ways so there's no need to gush. No one gushes about women earning, spending and paying the bills so that the burden on the man is lessened - next time someone says something like that, I'm going to say all this. They'll call me arrogant, but I won't care.srahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03243944393796831559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-16880507543088978522011-04-14T00:21:56.634-04:002011-04-14T00:21:56.634-04:00Sandeepa,
Loved this post, specially the disclaim...Sandeepa,<br /><br />Loved this post, specially the disclaimer was like cherry on the cae. I'm gonna make my hubby read this. <br /><br />Regards,<br />Seema<br />amchi-bong-konnexion.blogspot.com<br />seemabbas.blogspot.comSeemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956052716201792593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-48768434061300324492011-04-13T23:19:05.488-04:002011-04-13T23:19:05.488-04:00Chandrima
Honestly I never see anyone (except in ...Chandrima<br /><br />Honestly I never see anyone (except in the Indian ads maybe) praise a woman for doing these things. In today's world it seems it is accepted that a woman will work outside as well as inside home with equal panache and can do no less.And I am speaking of global women here.<br /><br />Kuntala<br /><br />Kothay bhablam table chapre bolbe --"ekdom na, birodh korchi". Dush mene nile ar roilo ki.<br />Ei celebrity mohila der interview dekhini to, eta ki bangla channel, Rituporno noi to.Bong Momhttp://www.bongcookbook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-60426521364115870412011-04-13T22:35:13.421-04:002011-04-13T22:35:13.421-04:00ekebare table chapRe sommoti janalam Bongmom.....a...ekebare table chapRe sommoti janalam Bongmom.....arekta byapar, celebrity mohilader interview newar somoy abodharito 3 nombor proshno, "apnar swamir sohogogitar byapare kichhu bolun" ami bujhina, hothat asohojogita korte jaben keno swami? ar purush celebrity ra ki kono sohojogita chhaRai bikhyato hoye jachchhen naki? tNader to bhuleo o proshno kora hoyna?Kuntalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00675088325804867045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-63388584342661522402011-04-13T22:27:12.563-04:002011-04-13T22:27:12.563-04:00I loved your rants! It is so very true, but I gues...I loved your rants! It is so very true, but I guess we are being praised when we drive our kids to school and home, we go out for a meeting, then come back look over the home works of our kids and still manage to put something on the table, you know what I mean. A woman need to do 30% more at home and work to get equally paid and praised in the society! Loved your meth dal.Chandrimahttp://www.blog-e-zine.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-7741906095402400152011-04-13T20:38:35.090-04:002011-04-13T20:38:35.090-04:00Indo
I leave the hard work for him, this was easy...Indo<br /><br />I leave the hard work for him, this was easy-peasy :-D<br /><br />Zendegy<br />Do you have a blog ?<br /><br />Cham<br /><br />My Dad is not adept at cooking etc. but when he is here he helps me a lot with laundry, gardening etc.<br />My husband is very good at housework and he gets too much praise from my friends for that ;-)<br /><br />Priya<br /><br />Will check out sure<br /><br />Poornima<br /><br />Ha, ha that is a good one. I hope they tell him, how lucky he is.BongMomhttp://www.bongcookbook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-73088895339546716682011-04-13T20:19:33.837-04:002011-04-13T20:19:33.837-04:00I am determined to make my sons do work around the...I am determined to make my sons do work around the house.You know my husband beams when someone praises him for MY cooking!!!Oh well. We can only rant.Love your disclaimer though!!Poornimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00413848460587219865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-81459204927698870032011-04-13T18:22:34.339-04:002011-04-13T18:22:34.339-04:00Love it dear, methi in dal is simply awesome.
Hey...Love it dear, methi in dal is simply awesome.<br /><br />Hey, I was wondering if you saw about "MAITRI - A Friendship Chain" event. If not, please do take a look and try to participate, it will be fun :)<br /><br />http://mharorajasthanrecipes.blogspot.com/2011/03/maitri-friendship-chain.html<br /><br />Send me an email @ priya.mitharwal@gmail.com<br /><br />Please also check my "Flavor of Bengal" event going on as I know you will add a lot of delicacies to it :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05381030520215535446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-72031561696116758542011-04-13T17:53:03.688-04:002011-04-13T17:53:03.688-04:00I ve seen my dad helping my mom, cooking and clean...I ve seen my dad helping my mom, cooking and cleaning etc... Even now, they are alone, when the maid is not there, my dad helps.<br />I tease my DH , he does few chores, but not cooking and of course no dish!<br />I like ur disclaimer!Chamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06912395013740648068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-19598321665245172472011-04-13T17:32:42.053-04:002011-04-13T17:32:42.053-04:00You are 100% right. I say this all the time, to my...You are 100% right. I say this all the time, to my daughters, to my students, to anyone who will listen. And some who won't. It falls to us to teach the next generation, boys and girls, to stop seeing things this way. Equality takes a long, long time to achieve...zendegyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00729259858418711577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-87657711174816179482011-04-13T15:19:07.697-04:002011-04-13T15:19:07.697-04:00The same reason why men are paid something like 30...The same reason why men are paid something like 30% more than what women are paid to do the same work :( It is simply unfair that's what it is Sandeepa.<br /><br />Anyway I was expecting the dal be cooked by your DH. I love the smell of methi in dal and this is delicious. I would add sambhar powder of course ;)indosungodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11556193051268397994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35578975.post-3636401273700451392011-04-13T15:07:05.492-04:002011-04-13T15:07:05.492-04:00Meem
Hugs.Totally understand :-)
Priya
So True....Meem<br /><br />Hugs.Totally understand :-)<br /><br />Priya<br /><br />So True.<br /><br />Nupur<br /><br />It is true that many guys do not gladly help at home. I personally know men who say "I will never do the dishes".True for Indians as well as non-Indians. It is for the couple to decide how they negotiate or balance such things.<br /><br />But in the cases that men do help, I do not understand the point in going overboard with all that praise.BongMomhttp://www.bongcookbook.comnoreply@blogger.com