Miri -- Miss Ya, Remember Ya

Raji Shanker, blogs at Peppermill Recipes. I call her Miri.Even after I knew her real name, I called her Miri. Today she is no more with us. I cannot believe it.All I have done today is thought about her. And then I decided I needed a closure. For Peace. Rest in peace, my dear friend. This post is for you and the Goshtu recipe that you mailed me will be for dinner tomorrow.

This was from a feature in Femina done on her in 2008. I think she had moved back to her financial career by now but as we all know she loved writing and excelled at it.

I had connected with Miri through the world of food alone which then transcended to motherhood, career, work-life balance and even dance classes for the kids. Her Blog tag line said "Mothers, Food, Love and Career" -- four guilt groups.So true.

I never met her in real life and yet I knew she was a vivacious, upbeat person always positive and full of life. Hers was one of the few blogs where I could leave a comment that went way beyond food and always looked out for her view on my posts. She rarely ever talked about her health on her blog and it was always a comforting place warmed by the colorful food.Even when she talked about her surgery (in her e-mail) she pointed out how the time off from work gave her more time to spend with her little girl and how her friends pitched in to make the summer special. I never once thought that her health issues would take her away.

She touched my life in many ways and maybe I never acknowledged the way her e-mails actually cleared my thoughts.Today I owe it to you Miri.

The e-mails with her discussing balancing blogging with real life had made me go back to my blog with more confidence beginning of last year. She had said in that long mail of hers "Blogging is something which stimulates me and keeps me happy. And when I'm happy then family is happy too I guess.". That she loved cooking and sharing it with people was clear from her blog. That she took the time to inspire the same joy in others is special.

On a mail in which I was hyperventilating about summer vacations and the kids she had said "our children are fine and actually manage to keep themselves entertained while enjoying themselves - so don't beat yourself up about it too much - they are doing fine! :) " You see the saneness. This could only come from a Mother who would spend time cooking and baking with her little girl, doing craft activities and reading books. It loosened me up.

On discussions about the work-life balance she had said "in this day and age I thought it was ridiculous that I had to "choose" between home and work - whatever happened to the work life balance philosophy spouted by all these MNCs? And how dare they ask me questions they wouldn't dare ask a man I used to think". I was secretly happy to know that right there was a fierce Mom who loved her profession and yet did not want any compromises on the home front.

On the Goshtu recipe that she sent, she clearly specified "You need to fry the eggplants first (after the tempering) and cover and cook to make sure they are 3/4th cooked before adding the tamarind....since the tamarind doesn't allow it to cook...". My eggplant with tamarind did have this problem always. I never did get a chance to try it out after she told me how. My Goshtu if it gets better will be only for her.

I will miss you so much Miri. You be happy and take care where you are.

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Manisha has shared a beautiful picture and words about her time with Raji.

Kalyan shares his warm memories of Raji

EatWriteThink, Beautiful memories from a close friend of Miri

Arch shares her own memories of her close friend Raji

Sunetra's Peyajkoli Maach -- Fish with Spring Onion

If you have been reading me for a while you know that I do not have a personal profile on FB. I have my own reasons for that. And anyway I am a late bloomer so I might get on finally when I am the last one standing. I did my eyebrows only in the late twenties so I still have a chance. I am that kind of a person.

I however have a Page for my blog on FB which you can checkout by clicking on the Facebook icon on the top left column of this page. If that confuses you click here. When I started that Page I did not have a clear direction in mind. It was just one more thing which I did and then never logged in again. Recently however I do engage in a lot of discussions there. It is interesting to throw out ideas amongst like-minded people even if that means discussing one's lunch.

In one of these discussions, Sunetra(whom I do not really know) said her husband made a peyaajkoli rui for her. That sounded darn interesting. The next thing you know I have bought a fresh striped bass from the Asian Market, a bunch of vibrant green peyajkoli(green onion/scallion) and am asking Sunetra (whom by the way I still do not know) how to make a peyajkoli rui.

Sunetra (who btw also does not have a clue about me) very kindly writes down all the steps and shares the recipe right there on the message thread. I make it with the fresh striped bass. Peyajkoli Maach turned out to be really delicious.The fresh taste of the green onions mingled with the spices and fish. It is a delight. I cannot be thankful enough to her for giving us a nice lunch. It is a dish I am going to make again...and again...and again until I get tired of peyaajkoli.

Thank you Sunetra, whom I still do not know and go IPO FB.

Peyajkoli or green onions (or scallion or spring onion) is a very winter thing for me. Like cauliflower and tomatoes and dhonepata it reminds me how good a warm sun can feel and how reading a book wrapped in naphthalene scented quilts is one of the many joys of life. Usually with Peyajkoli I make either a vegetarian aloo-peyajkoli or a chingri diye peyajkoli like my Mother did. So this recipe with fish was definitely a new and loved dish.

I did a couple of new things while cooking fish this time which I also think might help you.

I broiled the fish.Usually for a Bengali style gravy I fry the fish. Taking a friend's suggestion I broiled it in my toaster oven. It turned out perfect and with 90% less oil. Win-Win.

Second my onion paste sometimes tends to get bitter. So I boiled the onions and then made a paste. No bitterness and the paste could be stored for a week.

If you are not a fish eating glutton but still want to make this dish, skip the fish, up the potatoes, add in some cauliflower and taste the vegetables in season. Sunetra says you can also do it with eggs. If you eat fish then of course you have no reasons to dither.


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Peyajkoli Maach/ Fish with Green Onion

Striped Bass (or any other sweet water fish) - 4 steak size pieces cleaned and scale removed.
Rub fish with turmeric and salt. Keep aside for 20-30 mins. Then fry in hot mustard oil. I usually shallow fry the fish and at times even broil them in the oven at 400F (toaster oven settings). The latter really works well even for rui etc. For shallow frying about 3-4 tbsp oil is required while for broiling in the oven just 1-2 tsp is good.

Chop two bunches of green onion in 1" pieces. Chop a medium sized potato in long thick slices.

Make onion paste. Sometimes my onion paste made in the grinder gets bitter so I boil and then make a paste of the onions. This also stays well for a week in the refrigerator.

If you have oil remaining after frying fish, use the same else heat some more.

Temper the oil with
1/4 tsp of kalo Jeera/kalonji
and 4 green chili slit at top.

When spices start dancing add about
4 tbsp of onion paste followed with 1/4tsp of sugar.
Fry the onion paste till it starts browning and there is no raw smell.

Add about 1 tsp of ginger paste. Fry for a minute.

Next add a tomato finely chopped. Fry the tomato till the tomato becomes all mush and oil starts separating from the masala.
Add three quarters of the chopped green onion and potato slices. Fry till the green onion starts wilting.

Add
1 tsp of coriander powder
3/4 tsp of Cumin powder
1/2 tsp of red chili Powder (optional)
Sprinkle a little water and fry the masala for few minutes along with the green onion and potato.

Now add about 3/4 cup of warm water, salt to taste and let the gravy simmer and come to a boil. Once the potatoes are cooked and you have tasted and adjusted the spices slide in the fried fish pieces. Add the rest of the chopped green onion. Let it cook in the gravy for few more minutes. Switch off. Keep covered and serve warm with white rice.

Mera wala Chai...

I often complain about how I want to drink my tea in peace.

In fact I complain so much that if BigSis makes a card for me listing a few things that I love-- right there at # 1 is "Mommy loves to Sleep" and # 2 is "Mommy wants to drink tea in peace". She has REALLY given me a card and two like that. I don't know if she is trying to get a message across---child psychologists would know better--- but that is the impression even you will get if you stayed 24x7 with me for at least a fortnight. For days fewer than that I strive hard to make an impression.

But in reality I think the day I have my tea to myself I will not know what to do with it.

A cup of tea with two little hands dunking Marie in it is "Mera wala Chai" and I want it to remain that way. Sniff.Sniff.

Here goes a little hand

Didi is not one to be left behind

Dunk...chomp...chomp

In a rush...marie slips into chai